• how many avoidance tools do you use?


    this whole twitter craze got me thinking a lot lately.  besides the curious thoughts of the business model behind twitter (not for others, cell phone companies are making money with their plan upgrades, people building twitter apps are making money through ad-funded models, etc.) for themselves, it caused me to think about my use of technology and how other people use it as well.

    twitter has become a new instant messenger of sorts i think.  i see much more messages flying across with @username: what are you doing, etc. type comments.  i chuckle when i see messages like that and *that* is what made me realize how technology has been an enabler of avoidance tools.

    so how many avoidance tools do you have that you use to avoid personal contact with people?  here are some of mine...

    not answering the door/no soliciting signs: well, maybe not technology, but i remember growing up where people left doors open, neighbors sat out on the driveways with each other after work and talked, etc.  now it's open garage-drive in-close garage.  doorbell rings?   if you weren't expecting anyone do you answer?  i barely even bother looking through the peephole anymore -- and now the 'hoods are flooded with no soliciting signs.  minor, but notable.

    voice mail and caller id: voice mail has been around for ages.  perhaps the best demonstration of this is in seinfeld's episode where george is avoiding the inevitable break-up with his girlfriend.  he won't answer the phone and uses the voicemail machine to screen calls.  c'mon, who hasn't done that?  now with digital voicemail, it's a bit more processing to screen calls because you may be using a service rather than a machine...so now you have to wait for that tone to tell you that you have to check who you avoided.  caller id? heck do you answer a call anymore from a number you don't know?  and what about instant-reply on voice-mail?  listen to a v-mail, rather than call back you use the "reply with voicemail" feature as long as you are on the same network.

    email: do i even need to explain this?  seriously, my wife has to send me email to get things accomplished.  sad i know, but true.  my inbox has become my life to-do list

    instant messaging: ah the instant nag.  ping/pong of messages.  don't have time to call/respond to v-mail/email?  use an IM.  it's quick, but we're still avoiding talking to each other.  would an IM conversation happen quicker if you just picked up the phone?

    sms: the new mobile instant messenger.  what's funny is that *you are using your phone* to text someone.  wouldn't it make more sense to call?

    twitter: now a combination of all of the above...and adding the lovely feature of me now knowing what you are doing on every random moment (heck, i'm guilty of using this now as well)...but i still find it amusing that we are instant messaging the world the fact that we are headed to breakfast.

    fascinating, how many tools enable me to avoid talking to you as a person...:-)

    heck, even this blog...

    Monday, April 23, 2007 10:10 PM

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  • Matt Ortiz said:
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    # re: how many avoidance tools do you use?


    Hilarious Tim! Not many of anybodies posts do I agree with wholly but as I signed up for Twitter last night I too am feeling my way through my use of it. So tonight I'm looking to see who of my friends are also using Twitter and you kill me with your comment on posting about going to breakfast. It hit home as I posted in the parking lot earlier tonight from my phone, while the wife was feeding our newborn, about the family date we'd just had.

    On the other hand, I do see Twitter as a good way to journal your day. For different people this may be helpful in different ways. For me, on first glance, it could be 1) a way to remember what I'm doing professionally so that I can drive out larger post content later. Although, I think to myself, might I just consider looking at my calendar. 2) after reading my Twitter posts from last night it may be a way to help me review my work life balance over time (ya - not likely ;-)). BTW: feel free to give me a break here I wont be posting every few minutes normally. It was my first night with the Twitter/TwitBox combo so I was doing more discovery than normal journaling. 3) ...

    So I'm wondering if there may be coming, and there might already be, a way to keep some Twitter posts non-public or targeted. As I'm sure some of my friends/followers will, perhaps, be interested in my work day happenings but not so much my family/personal interests ;-). I'm also not so sure I want to post things about my family for review by others but don't want to give up the ability to journal personal stuff.

    But to your original point this particular service does seem to bringing us even closer to a sort of no-touch voyeur/exhibitionist society ;-). Though Tim, you of all people, need not worry about personal contact/communication. You make time for a lot of people professionally and for friends/colleagues. Who decided, and why is it consensus, for instance, that phone calls are better than lunch say? Of course time is the answer. But I pose that time, or even the fact that we may not actually like some people, is why we don't communicate directly. Based on this and other posts though you seem to be indicating something that I've too noticed of myself: that family, or those closest to us, sometimes get less attention that they deserve ;-).

    So, crazy, I find myself thinking… Maybe with friend/group categories we can communicate through Twitter our next Band of Brothers lunch. But damn, this is another example of the trapping not to mention a ridiculous idea. So next I think just pick up the phone and call, oh but wait I'd have to call 10/15 people, so just send out an email to the distro list. Then we can go old-school and punch each other in the arm for not getting together more often ;-).

    So my last point here, and I know I'm stating the obvious, that we're not always thinking about building the next burgeoning tech business model: but sometimes, in particular, people like us, want to just drive out our next personal technical project. Hm.. Maybe another reason Twitter can be helpful. Note to self: #4...

    Let's get the guys/gals out to lunch man!

    I'll post a moded version of this comment on my blog...

    5/12/2007 9:40 PM

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